Igniting elite performance within yourself is something everyone is looking to do for their life. We all would like to get the most out life from health, romance, finances, relationships, and leave a legacy when we’re gone. Many times we allow minor issues to derail us from our path to excellence. All we need to do is make minor shifts so we can ignite elite performance in our lives. There is one thing you can do today that will make a major difference in all areas of your life. Do you know what it is?
This major key is cleaning out your TRUNK...Your Emotional Trunk! When I wasn’t achieving everything I wanted to in life, I would blame others but I soon realized it was the person looking back at me in the mirror. Not just the person but the kid version of myself, where I haven’t dealt with past traumas. Once I cleaned my emotional trunk, I began see a transformation in my life. P.S...I'm still cleaning my trunk out
Where do I start!?
I’m glad you asked...let me tell you my story!
In late August 2017, after driving 18 plus hours from Buffalo after accepting an injury settlement and deciding I was done playing football, I was ready to transition. Everything I worked for since I was 8 years old was coming to an end; the late nights studying, the hills, the stadiums, the 4 am alarms, the sweat equity that was put in was enormous. Let’s not forget about the community I was losing and my whole mission that I had since I was in the third grade. It was done in a blink of an eye.
I always knew football was a temporary job, but that didn’t make these emotions go away. What did I do when I felt the flood of emotions? I said to myself “oh....it’s not a big deal” and I turned on the music and jammed out the rest of the way home. When I got home from this drive I had dead bugs all over the front of my car and I was amped up on Red Bull!! So like any normal person would do after a 18 hour drive I went to the car wash to clean my car.
Now I’m cleaning my car... I start with surface the outside of my car. I finish that. Now it’s time to vacuum...I knock out the inside of my car. I was a little sad my skittles got eaten by the vacuum in the process but I knocked this out fast! So despite the grief over my candy, I’m feeling accomplished. That forbidden trunk that I never touch was getting clean today because I was feeling so good! The trunk was popped open and realized that all my BAGS were still in there!
Have you ever wanted to do something and then saw how much work it would take so feelings of wanting changes instantly? That is how I felt in that moment. I went ahead and did it, but I decided to be clever and lift up the bags instead of taking all my bags out. As I was doing this I was struggling to lift the bags up. I couldn’t reach the places I wanted to clean and BOOM......it felt like lightning hit my body or Mike Tyson hit me with the meanest uppercut. I heard God say “Shamiel, this is what you are doing with your life. You are holding onto the baggage that I’m trying to get you to let go of.”
This is when I realized that cleaning out your Trunk is the most important thing you can do in your life. Cleaning out your EMOTIONAL TRUNK is the most important thing you do in your life. We clean out our cars, but we rarely touch the Trunk. In our lives we have an emotional trunk that we rarely clean out. When the emotions flooded in on the drive back from Buffalo, what did I do? I stored them in my emotional trunk that I was planning on never touching.
We clean the outside, and the parts that are seen but the trunk is the unseen place. The place that is not seen by our friends and neighbors and our family. The trunk is where we keep all that extra garbage, the stuff that we don’t want anyone to see. It's so easy to close that trunk door to hide the unseen.
The problem with leaving junk in the trunk is that most times when we finally do decide to get it out...it's broken and unusable.The baggage starts to add up and add up. The more we pile up the easier it is to not deal with it.Taking time to declutter. Don’t let anyone tell you that it is weak to clean up your emotional trunk.
In this moment ...my journey of me becoming aware that I needed to invest time into cleaning out my trunk began...MY EMOTIONAL TRUNK... so I could live a life free of clutter, extra baggage, that was keeping me from reaching my full potential and my purpose.
Have you ever tried to go on vacation in your car and you had to take the items that weren’t out of the trunk to make room for the necessary items you needed to reach your ultimate destination? What I realized is if you never removed the junk from your emotional trunk such as limiting beliefs, past traumas, guilt, shame, envy, and other things we don’t deal with....we will keep ourselves from reaching full potential and living out our purpose. We will also ruin relationships and special opportunities.
By not cleaning out my emotional trunk, I was facing unnecessary disruption and distractions from things that should have been dealt with a long time ago. However, by me going on this journey I had an opportunity to use this as my defender.
Today take time to write down everything in your emotional trunk, so you can see what you need to deal with.